Idling Sheman

28 Dec 2011 Leave a Comment

by househo in Relations Tags: children, Divorce, hubby, Kat, Open marriage, Sheman

It’s been a long time since I have written about Sheman but it was due to very little communications between us that kept things on hiatus.  So, lemme catch you all up.  She had taken a CMA job in April and started working double shifts and over time to pay back some of her debts.  All this means that she had no life and everything was put on hold. 

I was quite fine with the situation.  It got her outta my hair for a while and I wasn’t feeling pressured anymore for constant hook ups.  I saw her here and there over the summer but it was all fleetingly.  The last time we saw each other was on Halloween.  We chatted for the longest time outside my door and I came to the realization that even though she is a pain in my ass; I missed her.  I truly like her and I like hanging out with her because we have so much in common.   I told her so via text that day and we were supposed to get together shortly after that but something came up.  I think she had to work. 

So time flies and life gets in the way every so often we would fire off a text to each other and it was more of hit or miss between us.  Here comes Christmas and I wanted to see her.  We set up a time and she waffled, work again.  The next day she had off and so we planned to just to do her errands and reconnect. 

We shopped and I bought her a late Christmas gift and then took her to breakfast for lunch.  Turns out we both love breakfast any time of the day.  I was thrilled!!  We chatted about her relationship with her “wife” Kat and it seems that her Open Marriage has exploded.  Hubby doesn’t cut it for her anymore and she wants out.  I mentioned that I knew that kind of relationship wouldn’t work.  One spouse cannot be that selfish in wanting to have extra martial affairs and not allow the other to have them.  It’s bullshit.  The man claims he doesn’t want to step outside the marriage but I don’t believe that.  There is some deep harboring resentment there that has bubbled up to the surface and has caused irreparable damages. That with the fact the man doesn’t know his wife and has loads of bad traits. 

As I listen to Sheman castrate the man I couldn’t help but toss in that it takes two people to make a marriage work.  That Kat is not an angel and that she is just as much to blame as he is for the failure of their union.  She had to agree with me and has some trepidation for what the future could be bringing her way.  Kat divorces her hubby and wants Sheman to move in with her.  Wants Sheman to be the parent to her children that hubby is incapable of being.  And I tossed in for added measure that I would have to leave the picture of this happy scenario. 

For the first time know Sheman, I seen her tell me that she has no intentions of moving in with Kat after hubby is gone.  She in fact signed her lease for another year at her apartment.  Sheman is putting on the breaks for her freedom.  I was so very impressed with her!  She must have realized she needs to slow things down and not go so fast.  I am really digging this side of her! 

Anyways, long story short; Sheman is not out of the picture just idling in the background for a few spare moments here and there.  I also have another year with her to see where things could go.