I’m her Tinkerbell
08 Feb 2011 1 Comment
in Open marriage Tags: cheating, fidelity, insecure, Kat, married, relationship, Sheman, tinkerbell
Seems I have made an impact on Sheman. Enough so that she has taken to staying home for the next few days to rethink things and to get her life in order. Revealing this to Twin, I wondered if I was that influential or she wanted me that bad. Twin believes both are true and mentioned that I could very well be her Fairy Godmother. I balked at this, claiming that sounded like an old lady. So I became her Tinkerbell. Guiding her thru this crazy world of polyamory.
Today was an eye opening view of what their relationship has really become. She moved in with them to live in my town. During this time frame the fell in love. Within three months they purchased these rings and engraved their love for each other and made a pledge. A promise as Sheman keeps referring to. This promise was to be faithful to each other. Yet Kat has her husband — but he don’t count (say what?!?). Her hubby is not allowed to date and all seems to be ok with this. I find this outrageously wrong.
So here I am, really in dormancy until I waken and find I truly would like to start a relationship with this woman. Sheman is now caught. In her moment of passion she fucked up everything. I get out of her that she did in fact made this pledge and I cannot ignore it. As heartbreaking as it was, I stuck to my guns telling her that she is married with a pledge of fidelity and to me this is sacred. For her to mess around with me would be considered cheating and I would have no part of it.
Sounds so weird right? I should be ok with the cheating part, but I’m not. I’m not that person anymore and I won’t help others to become that way. I got my standards and I will stick to them. Sheman believes me when I told her if she could not fix what she screwed up then we were over.
I believe now she is in the midst of some heart to heart negotiations with Kat. Both are very insecure gals. This makes for an explosive relationship. Especially since Sheman cannot be truthful with her. But I seem to be the voice behind her, helping her make her point and to stick to her guns.
So now I sit back and wait to see what I stirred up.
Karma baby, Karma
17 May 2010 4 Comments
in Open marriage Tags: cheating, facebook, girlfriend, harrassing, karma, liar, married, Open marriage, scare tactics, teasing, threesome, wife, yahoo
This is a fantastic story as to why I won’t date married men. If a married man tells me that he is in an Open Marriage then I now would ask to meet the wife. By doing this I flush out the lying bullshitting men trying to cheat on their wives and get their dicks wet.
I mentioned this fella back months ago in this posting, were he wooed me for multiple months, jumping thru my hoops all the get laid.
After nearly three months of non communicative comments, he waltzes back thinking all is great and we should pick things up back where we left off. But I can’t. I feel like something is off with this man. I feel that he is lying but I am not sure about what. And it really just killed whatever feelings I had for him. Which totally sucked because we were both in an open marriage and it could have been a nice time.
Until I get an email from him thru his Facebook page, asking me how are you. I found that odd. Why is he not IMing me thru Yahoo, or texting me on my cell phone? Ok whatever. I went with it. I answered with a “did you see the picture I sent to your cell?” In reference to my last threesome and he answered he did not. Asking me to resend it to him but to a different number. So I obliged him, thinking what a nice little teasing gesture of what he will never touch again.
A few minutes later my cell phone rings and its him, turns out I was chatting with his wife on Facebook. I busted out laughing. He said that she was all bent about someone on his page. And wanted to know who I was. He apologized for getting me in the middle of it. I said I wasn’t. I have nothing to hide. I then asked if she knew about my girlfriend that he was messing around with too. His response was “well ya see, it never came up’. Right. You lying mother fucker. I tell him I gotta go cause I am beyond ok with talking with him any longer.
I am then bombarded with texts from his wife asking all sorts of questions about him and I. Before I answer them I ask her the main question that has been bugging me all along about him. “Are you in an Open Marriage?”
She says yes and then I proceed to answer her questions. This filters into the next day and I am still answering her questions. I tell her everything, the man had enough time to fess up to his wife but didn’t. So I sunk his ship for him.
She then calls me and starts spewing her own madness. They are not in an open marriage and never had been. He cheated on her over 10 yrs ago and now again with me and another woman. She wants a divorce. Pretty simple right. Oh no.. so wrong.
He starts harassing my girlfriend because she is married and NOT in an Open Marriage but doesn’t say two words to me. He has nothing on me to shut me up. So he uses scare tactics on my friend to shut her up. She was confused as to why he is doing this. My theory is you cheat once, you can be forgiven. Cheat multiple times you are done for.
I also know that other people have said they were in an Open marriage and that the wife is lying. There is other details that makes this all the more twisted and surreal. Who is lying and who is wacked?
I believe they are both lying and both are wacked. And their drama is not mine or my friends bag. But overall, when you are traveling in this lifestyle you run into familiar faces in your area. Sooner or later your lies and indiscretions will come to light and those closest to you will see the true you.
So in short, Karma baby, Karma. Kicks you in the ass every time.
Single women
28 Apr 2010 2 Comments
in Open marriage Tags: attraction, commitment, help, lust, married, Open marriage, poly, poly love, poly relationships, sex, single women
Well this posting is a bit different today. I have a fellow in a Open Relationship or poly lifestyle in need of some advise on Single Women. Here’s his dilemma:
Glad to see that you and your hubby are proudly in an open relationship. My women and I have also been doing that for a while; although we call it poly (sure you’re acquainted with the term). I think there are a lot more people who are in one or wish they where in an open relationship, but do not speak up about it. The world would probably be a better world if they did.
So after reading your profile I see you had some trouble dealing with married men who don’t understand what an open relationship is about, sorry you that you’ve had those situations.
I have had similar troubles like that, but it has been with single women. To sum up a few long stories, I have gotten involved with single women, who know full well that I am in a poly relationship. I’m up front about everything. I’m not here to lie or deceit people just to get laid, I really do want genuinely close relationships. So the dating or seeing (whatever you want to call it) processes goes good for a while, then one day they tell me they can be involved with me anymore because I’m with someone else. I get the I’m a great guy speech and they really wish things could be different and all that type of stuff. In fact I would much rather they tell me I’m a jerk or something that I could understand. So I’m left standing there thinking WTF why would you get involved with me in the first place if you knew you couldn’t handle this type or relationship.
I would really appreciate your thoughts about that you seem to on my side of the fence with that with situations like that. Well, those experiences have led me to stay away from single women.
So this poor joe wants to have fun-loving relationships with Single females but they just can’t handle things being noncommittal perhaps?
I’d love to hear your take on this.
