Sheman and the Poly group meeting
17 Jul 2010 Leave a Comment
in Open marriage, Relations Tags: cohabitate, coparenting, Open marriage, open relationship, poly living, poly meeting, polyamour, sex, Sheman
I met her thru a popular dating site after I added my dom pics from the Fetish Ball. It really attracted some women on there. An average looking lesbian that became chatty very quickly. I allowed the conversation to move from the site to personal emails only because she could not access the site via her phone. So we emailed. She bombarded me with several pictures and so I felt incline to send a few back.
From getting to know each other to talking about sex happened within 4 emails. I have to say that once it goes there its hard to step back from it. She was happy to stay in this avenue though. Me being over stimulated with all the crap ass sex talk from men, I did not find it stimulating. In fact it was close to annoying.
She then started asking to talk on the phone. And pushed with every email and picture she sent to call her. So I finally relented. We talked from midnight to 2 am. The conversation was really nice and enjoyed talking with her. Getting her off the phone was hard but I finally said my good nights and hung up.
She did not start the texting the next morning, I did. I shared a funny photo that I knew she would get a kick out of and that started the ball rolling. Of course it was smack dab centered on sex. I ended up ignoring her multiple texts while I played house with my family and that just pushed her to call me and leave me a voice mail. Again I ignored them all until hours later when I was ready to talk to her again.
She went right back to talking about sex. So I told her to stop, using the excuse of both of us unable to hook up at any time now due to vehicle issues. I encouraged her to try to get to know me as I would like to get to know her. She apologized and sent an email further apologizing. I told her not to apologize, that I get that I am a new toy and she is dying to play with it but at the moment there is nothing we can do about it so let’s get to know one another. That then set her back into sexland because I said “toy”. I literally told her “NEW RULE!! No sex talk unless I initiate it.” Seriously? I have to tell a grown woman this?
Since then Sheman ( I call her this because she carries the ignorant traits of so many men that I have talked to that just don’t get it) has been on her best behavior and is trying to get to know me. Shocking.
POLY Meeting or those in an Open Marriage/Relationship:
This was my first meeting in our location that had a nice turn out. There was a mix of people who were of all ages, young to old, sharing their experiences and connecting to one another.
It was refreshing to see older women there that freely talked of their multiple partners and I couldn’t help but wonder if I would be like them in my old age. Younger couples that cohabitated and coparented was not something that I felt comfortable with but they accepted so willingly. I like my own space and to race my children myself. There was a woman speaking of a tribe that she was in. More of a triangle really but she liked referring to it as a tribe. Really nice gal, and her mother! Who was very endearing and articulate.
I didn’t find any of them to be distasteful. Its times like this that I truly like my city because of it encourages others to think outside the box society has enforced on us all.
Poly love
29 Apr 2010 Leave a Comment
in Open marriage Tags: commitment, Open marriage, poly love, poly relationships, polyamour
An enjoyable song that is about a Poly love based relationship. Check it out!
Poly Love?
20 Oct 2009 Leave a Comment
in Uncategorized Tags: poly love, poly relationships, polyamour
My first guy I like to write about is someone I met thru a yahoo group about Polyamour Relationships. What is Poly.. whew.. it’s a tough one actually! No one has the same situation. Its starts with two people who are an exclusive couple wanting to share their love with others. This couple is called the Primary. They then find their next love interest and they become Secondaries. And it can balloon into a family tree so to speak. Not to mention get crazy complicated.
So it really is a personal journey how you would progress in this adventure, keeping in mind you have boundaries, personal rules and children to protect.
With me, I was not so inclined to incorporate my children in a poly relationship. In fact I am extremely protective of my young and would go for the jugular if you hurt one of my babies.
So setting all that aside, I ventured into a more romantic setting of a polyrelationship. He was quite by accident too. I was just looking to meet some new friends that are in poly relationships and see how I would fair in this setting.
Lets call him Ryan. Ryan is sweet… romantic.. endearing.. and he has the most kissable lips I have ever had the opportunity to kiss.
So I chat online with Ryan for several weeks via email and then we ventured towards Yahoo IM and I was able to see what he looked like. We both liked what we saw. Interesting conversation about his life had me soo intrigued I wanted to know more about him.
This man’s primary relationship had her secondary partner living with them. This floored me. WOW! What kinda man is this to let his primary have her lover live in the same home as them and be part of the family. Quite shocking, isn’t it! Well I needed to meet this man.
Our meeting was very exciting, which was fantastic for me, I had not been excited about meeting anyone in a long time. Our first meeting was outside a bar. I walked right up to him and kissed him. It was amazing and I could have stayed there all night just kissing him.
We had a nice “date” that seemed to be something of a therapeutic session for him and possibly for me as well. I found he was truly unhappy. He as a man in his own home is not at all ok with another man in his home.
I was a bit taken back by all this and my heart broke for him. His public portrayal of him being in a happy arrangement was a lie. My whole attraction to him was that there was an openness between us. That there were no boundaries that we couldn’t speak of. His confession to me brought out feelings of dislike for his spouse.
Our second date was at this bar that put on Karaoke, I invited him along. I was with some girlfriends that don’t judge. Most of my girls are in similar relationships. I like it that way.
Anyways, Ryan thought he would be intruding so as an after thought I suggested he brought along his spouse. Instead he brings both her and her lover.
Talk about a weird situation. I was immediately reserved and withdrawn from Ryan. I was very uncomfortable. After some time had passed, I was able to be relax some and observe his wife and her lover.
I found that out of the three of them, Ryan stuck out as the third wheel. That she was more attentive to her lover then her husband. She looked uncomfortable in her own skin. And her lover was a pompous ass.
Ryan was surprised at my observation and said I was accurate on all counts.
Our evening ended with me feeling myself shut down and not wanting to be with him.
He knew I was disturbed by it all and finding it all incredibly hard to swallow his situation and trying to include me in it.
Rules needed to be stablished. I don’t hang out with wife and lover. Can’t do it. His pain was mine and I protect those I care about in pain. Things would be said if I was around them. So in pre=”in “>everyones best interest I cannot be in their vicinity.
Our third date was a movie, sweet romantic movie of Zombies.. he was adorably frightened and clung to my hand. I just could feel his sadness seep into me and I needed to fix this man.
Our evening ended with me telling him how messed up his life truly is. His spouse has made him her secondary and her lover her primary. IN his own house. OUCH!
He saw the light and confronted her. I helped him see the light that was blinding everyone else. His world crumbled as he realised his marriage was over.
He now is picking up his pieces.. and I feel some guilt over showing him the truth. Although he adamantly states I was not the only one showing him the way life should be for him.
Witnessing my love for my husband and children really brought to light how his wife should behave towards him.
Our relationship has taken a bit of a hiatus. We still talk, flirt and see one another but can this relationship work? His life is a disaster. Unstable. And now he has a freedom to explore life to the fullest.
My attraction to him was the sweet romantically things we say to one another and time we spend.
He is ready to get on his runaway train and see where it crashes. I just need to decide.. do I hop on that train with him?
