Karaoke Kay
09 Oct 2011 Leave a Comment
in Open marriage, Relations Tags: boyfriend, breast, karaoke, Kay, Kiss, kissing, orgasms, penetration, Relationships, sex, threesome
I have a very dear friend that I written about two years ago; the Lesbian. Feel free to catch on her story before reading any further on this posting.
Ok, all caught up? Good. Well knowing that she is bisexual I can’t keep her named as the Lesbian. So I will rename her. Kay is a fantastic woman that found her way in the world of Karaoke like her boyfriend. While pursuing this great pastime she has made loads of friends and developed a serious crush on a fellow Karaoke singer. He is very similar to her boyfriend and things progressed to a drunken evening in a threesome with her boyfriend and her crush. Confusion ensued as she contacts me for help. Her boyfriend, although initiated the threesome for what seems to be for the specific reason to DP her, was weird about the whole thing and did not know the state of their relationship. Sex was off and orgasms were not achieved all around and the crush grows stronger.
While talking to her I found that she has not understood the type of relationship she can have with her boyfriend if she just talked honestly with him. Her rocker boyfriend has had a very colorful sex life and this tells me that an open relationship is not something he would be against. I even tossed in that to help her smooth the relation out into a more positive avenue, that I would help them out in doing a threesome with them.
Not so shockingly this was exactly what was needed to help them. Several weeks go by and I get a call from her asking if I would like to have a fun time this evening. We were to go to a bar, sing Karaoke, do a little drinking and then meet up with the boyfriend after he gotten off of work. I said sure!
Now I am not into the types of men she is into. He is a rocker with piercings, tattoos, bald and a full beard. His look does not turn me on but as a person I truly liked him. My love for my friend was enough to agree to this evening without a second thought.
I dress up in a sexy dress and got all girly for them. She was unsure about the whole situation until she saw what I was wearing. In the bar that she frequents a lot, she was very affectionate with me which probably had the regulars wondering. We sang our songs (which I was horrible at), drank our drinks and headed back to house.
Her boyfriend needed a shower as he handed me a cheap beer to drink. He works as a cook and had the musky smell of sweat that was going to be deal breaker if he didn’t shower. Luckily after a few mentions of him needed to take a shower he did it and shows back up in a towel.
It’s about midnight when the festivities began. Kay began kissing me and it was game on. As I was stripping she turned on some hard rock music via the internet radio that tossed in a commercial every few songs. While she was doing this her boyfriend was all over me, kissing me and then moving down to my breasts. I always find the attention I get on my breasts very light and wanting to tell them to be a little rougher, but instead I just enjoy it. He kisses me to my side and his beard tickles causing me to giggle. His beard is very soft and I just have to get used to it.
He then pushes me on my back and goes right to town as I feel Kay’s lips on my nipple. I then pull her up to me so I can kiss her. We go at this for a good while as I enjoy the oral he performed. He stops to put on a condom (which I thankfully forewarned about my allergy to spermicidal ones or this evening would have been a bust) and enters me. Oh it’s delicious. He is not huge and just the right size. Kay is excited as she raves about his cock and I have to admit I liked it. He fucked me while I again kissed Kay some more. After a while of me getting all the attention, I stopped him to switch positions. I had her lay down as I draped over her to kiss her. He came up behind me and then bites me right on my tattooed butt cheek.
my tat 
That was super hot! He then entered me while we were kissing and my thigh was on her pelvis as we fucked like this and I watched her cum all over my thigh.
We take a quick potty break and he lays down to tell me to get on top. I straddle him and begin to ride him. I feel Kay behind me as she cups my breasts and nibbles on my neck and ear. This position was so hot that I came four times and boy was I loud about it. They both loved making me cum and I so did I!
I pop off and have her straddle him as I come up behind her to do the same thing for her. I tend to be a bit rougher as I pull her hair and bite on them. I am not sure how many times she came but she wasn’t as loud as I was. It was definitely hot to see them both cum at the same time though.
We took a quick potty, beer and check the phone break. Kay kissed me and pushed me back down on the bed and dove right to my clit. Orally if I compared the two, I would say they were about equal with her being a bit more aggressive. I usually don’t care for being fingered but with her it was pretty nice. Until she starts pushing up on the inner part of my vagina that apparently is where your G spot is. I squirm some to stop her and open my eyes to see the head of his cock looming over my forehead. I begin to giggle and both look at me as I laugh about the cock over my head. Kay goes back down on me as I begin to play with his cock. I stroked his cock feeling it get hard as I run my tongue the length. The position we are in puts his cock at an angle that would be hot for those who enjoy porn flicks with the cocks entering a mouth at hitting the side of the cheek. We are doing this for a while as he pushes his cock into my mouth and all I can think of is teeth! How can a guy enjoy the sharpness of teeth running along their cock. He seemed to like it.
Another commercial hits and it’s about crunchy nut cereal and I burst out laughing. I asked if he had crunchy nuts and we all are in a fit of giggles. I think this is where we petered off and snuggled some before I asked about the time. It was past 2 am and I was ready to go home. He thanked me and kissed me goodbye and she took me home.
This brings a full circle to our relationship that evolved over the last two years. I introduced her to her new life and created a beautiful self assured bisexual woman who found her love. It may have been two years since we last been together but it felt like a few weeks. She wants to have me over to do this several more times and I joke about waiting 2 years again. But we will see. I am not good with repeat performances even if it was pretty damn good.
Sibling
29 Jun 2011 Leave a Comment
in Open marriage Tags: Hangover, hubby, ignorance, Marriage, Open marriage, open minded, Open Relationships, Relationships, Sibling
This past weekend I had a lovely time with my slut sisters. We drank multiple margaritas and went to see Bridesmaid. Note to all, if you seen The Hangover and its sequel then you would love Bridesmaid. It’s the female version of those movies and just as hilarious.
It was so nice to touch base with my girls and feel free in the process. How long has it been? Since like last fall? Yeah, way to friggin long. So we laughed and laughed. And then laughed some more. It was a fantastic time. I see us getting together soon for more fun.
As this weekend approaches, I have some dreading feelings that my Open Marriage is about to explode into full blown awareness by my family. I have an inside scoop on my brother’s naughty doings as he has become recently separated and is now sowing his wild oats. He happen to come across a profile of mine on Adult Friend Finder that I had deleted months ago. Apparently this site does not recycle out the ones that do not want to be found. Maybe it’s a numbers thing or tax thing. I don’t give a fuck, I deleted it and it should be removed from their database, right? Guess not.
I was told that he did not look at my profile because he did not want me knowing he viewed me. But instead told a girlfriend of mine, whom he is interested in, all about it with a clause of “Don’t say anything to my sister!” Yeah, ho’s before bro’s brother dear.
Probing further into their conversations, she enlightens me with a tasty tidbit of he is planning on hooking up with a friend’s wife who just happens to be in an Open Marriage. His main goal is to have a threesome with her and her girlfriends. This is all so very interesting to me because perhaps I have a family member I can confide in. Oh on the contraire, this is not the fact. My hopes were immediately dashed as she talked of how his voice gave of way of his distaste of this person’s relationship and even tossed in mine. Grant it I have no clue if he knows of my marriage, unless he did in fact read my profile. But he definitely lumped me in with this other gal’s relationship.
So now, I am livid at my brother’s ignorance. This man’s life is falling apart and he can’t see outside his box of pain. Perhaps he ridicules my happiness because he is not? Is it because he and his wife were unable to come to a suitable arrangement other then separation to make them happy? Sadly an Open Marriage for them would not have worked. My brother’s mentality is not in the same realm as my husbands’ (thank god). But more of a dominating, chest thumping ass of a man who wants a frigid princess to coddle and beg sex from.
Yeah I am venting. But what I said is actually true. How sad is that? No thanks. I will stay with my down to earth Open Minded Man. We are approaching our 11th Anniversary soon and all I can say is my man makes me the happiest gal alive.
Badge
11 May 2011 Leave a Comment
in Open marriage Tags: flaw, healing, hubby, lover, Relationships
As I go thru this healing process, I have also drawn attention to my flaw by wearing a bandage on it. So when I am out and about you just can’t help but notice this bandage. Which then brings on questions from strangers and those I know.
It’s almost like wearing a badge now in which I state “I’m gay!” I realize that by doing this I draw the attention to the very thing I have hidden. I am forced to show my weakness and by every question I am dealing with this easier and easier.
Those of you that follow my blog know that I had a lover for about 8 years. I would not say we spent hours together chatting and falling in love. That was not the case. We are both married and we liked the fun and excitement of sneaking off for quickies. We did this for the majority of those 8 years. When hubby and I opened the marriage, we were free to be more chatty and not so much sneaky. That really took the wind out of the sails of the relationship but more so I found this big hulk of a man to be a big whiny baby. It turned me off so bad that I ended the relationship. That is just a recap. I still see him and still find him unattractive when he opens his mouth. Bummer.
But anyways, he saw me with my bandage and asked me what happened. I told him I had a little procedure and he said Oh. Nothing more about it. Apparently he never noticed my flaw and was more interested in getting his dick wet. This really blew me away. I questioned this over and over. How could you not have noticed this? I sure as hell would have. But that’s because I am so aware of my flaw that I seek out flaws on others. Those who have multiple facial piercings and stretch out their earlobe distract me terribly that I can’t see them. I see this metal all over them that I find it detracts from their beauty.
I was asked how many people have actually noticed this and I can honestly say that not many have. My siblings, students during my school days, a few coworkers, hubby and a few others. That is those who mentioned it. Hubby never did until I brought it up. I am sure there may have been more but they were too polite to say anything or perhaps I have been so self-conscience about it that I felt everyone could see it.
So as I heal and wait for the okay for my second surgery, I find that I am emotionally healing from all of this. I find this a very positive step in the right direction.
What is Celibacy?
15 Mar 2011 1 Comment
in Relations Tags: Celibacy, Husbands and Wives, Marriage, Relationships, Sexuality
Celibacy can be a choice in life, or a condition imposed by circumstances.
While attending a Marriage Weekend, Frank and his wife Nancy listened to the instructor declare, “It is essential that husbands and wives know the things that are important to each other.”
He then addressed the men. “Can you name and describe your wife’s favorite flower?”
Frank leaned over, touched Nancy’s arm gently, and whispered, “Gold Medal-All-Purpose, isn’t it?”
And thus began Frank’s life of celibacy…
Whatta shame
27 Nov 2010 1 Comment
in Relations Tags: Divorce, husband, Marriage, Relationships, swinger
Several years ago hubby and I met a woman with a child with special needs. He went to the same classes my little guy went to. We always conversed with this woman at the bus stop and never let it go further than that. I had never extended the olive branch of friendship towards her for several reasons but mainly I found her a bit unstable.
She disappears for about a year and then resurfaces with a new child and now her husband in tow. Her husband was well.. hot. I got to chat it up with him a few times at the bus stop all the while dressed in my crappy sweats, ratty hair and hubby’s combat boots. Yeah I looked hot. LOL not!!
So I gushed and turned on the charm as I flirted a bit with him. Living so close to them though I try not to broadcast my Open Marriage and try to socialize much with the neighbors. Here is this tasty meat that I would have loved to mess with and instead I step back and made sure I did not overstep any boundaries. I also knew that their marriage was unstable and they were trying to make things work. So I was not going to cause any more issues and dropped it like it was on fire.
Lets fast forward another year or so, which turns out to be today, and I am running into her in a store. She looks different. Acting more grown up and seems like she has her shit together. We chat with her and she tells me that she is getting a divorce. Not so shocked about it I asked why. She tells me that her husband wanted to start swapping with other couples and she could not deal with that.
I was floored on this part. Keeping my composure I state a surprised “REALLY?!”. But in my head I was like “What!! Man! I was totally mackin on the guy!!”
*sigh* Just goes to show you that you never know where a person’s mind is when talk with them. I’m sure my hubby found her attractive since I thought she was a cutie. But to wreck the marriage because he wanted to spice up their life. This poor man now lost his family because of his desire to live life with his wife. I find that a shame.
I wonder if she’d give me his number…… … ;-P
Hangin with the Girls
22 Oct 2010 3 Comments
in Relations Tags: Human sexuality, Marriage, Open marriage, Relationships, Sexuality
Last night was a girl’s night that was soo needed. SassySlut and my Twin joined me at a darling little eatery for dinner and laughs. Boy did we laugh, and laugh and laugh. SassySlut has the funniest stories about her life and sexual experiences. Me being the goof ball, can’t help myself but to play off that which in turn has us cracking up in laughter.
It’s amazing how strong of a person SassySlut truly is as she deals with her life with such humor. That’s one of the things that I truly love about her. Whats more amazing about her is her honesty. She is married but not in an Open Marriage and is enjoying life despite her husband’s issues. It’s not as if she would deny anything and takes full account of all her actions. How can you not respect that?
I may be a hypocrite about this but women who cheat on their husbands tend to have a really good reason behind it. Open-mindedness, lack of affection from home or even a higher sex drive, all of which leads to cheating. Mainly my girlfriends that do cheat on their spouses, claim the having a higher sex drive and enjoy the thrill of a new partner. I totally get that.
Men on the other hand, seem to just do it.. to do it. There doesn’t seem to be any reasoning behind it other than the fact that they don’t want to work on their current relationship, so they give up on it and seek out a new thrill. I’m not saying all men do this but there are plenty out there that do this.
Am I saying that women who cheat on their men are also giving up on their current relationship? No, quite opposite! I believe it helps it. No more nagging, fighting and compassion comes back into the mix. They are getting a very basic need met so that they can concentrate on the deeper needs of a connection with their partner.
It’s interesting that SassySlut and my Twin, have a lost connection with their spouses. But are still there with them because their primal needs are being met outside the marriage bed. They both have their reasons and they are definitely sound. Should a marriage end due to the fact that they are not sexually satisfied with their spouses? I think not. We all make do with the lot we were handed and whether or not its dysfunctional to you or me, doesn’t matter cause its their life. Mine may be just as dysfunctional but it works for us.
So the connection in our little group is really our need to be out of the norm. Our dysfunction is our Norm. We openly discuss sexual encounters, what we like and don’t like and the craziest shit that happens during these moments. It’s almost a therapy session that is wickedly fun.
Twin mentioned to me today that we tend to pick G-rated locations to have our X-rated conversations. Yeah we do! And boy do we get some looks. We tend to laugh loudly so that’s the draw. Anyone venturing close can catch some tasty tidbits of our conversation that would make the prudes blush in outrage. Its our time to be our true selves without censorship. And it rejuvenated and distresses us in so many ways. I guess you could say its our little slut support group.
Dumbass questions I get from dating sites
23 Sep 2010 2 Comments
in Relations Tags: Marriage, Question Answering, Relationships, sexy eyes, Viggo Mortensen
1. So what are you looking for? — Oh Mister Right to sweep me off my feet.. I’m taking it you didn’t even get past my picture on my profile?
2. Your husband is ok with you shtooping another man? — yes, you gotta issue with that?
3. He doesn’t want to get in on our action, right? — Did you not read my fucking profile assfuck?!
4. You are ok with your husband getting his dick wet with another woman? – (this was asked not 5 minutes ago) —— again, CAN YOU FUCKING READ?! My profile is very blunt. OPEN MARRIAGE!!!!
5. So, whattya do for fun? — Obviously answering your dumbass questions and getting pissed off. It’s a hobby of mine.
On my last and only profile up, I have stated you have to be poly. That weeds out the
Major pantie drencher!
bullshit. Still I get it. This last guy that messaged me caught my attention not by his penmanship but by his picture. I wander thru his profile cause he looks like Viggo Mortensen and that got me hot. Yet chatting with the Nimrod I realise he can’t type and he is all about his dick. He asked me all the questions above including “so, you are married?” and I did my very best not to freak out on him and say the answers I posted on here. Why? Well he is purdy. His eyes are sexy. So I can give him a little leeway, right?
Instead I said. Did you read my profile? ”Oh no, I saw the tits and I had to write you.” Nice. Ok, go fucking read it. He reads it and says ok read it. Yeah? Well do you know what Poly is? ”no, can you tell me?” I briefly explain it and he’s all oh yeah, yeah that’s cool!
Yeah, sure you are.
I’m clearly not ready to talk to men when the ask how big my tits are. Even if its Viggo. Well.. maybe. But he did live close to 2 hours away. So, yeeeaaah.. Viggo.. hmm.. maybe??
A year of Changes
22 Sep 2010 2 Comments
in Relations Tags: Advice, dating, Humor, Intimate relationship, orgasm, Recreation, Relationships, sex, Sexology, Sexual intercourse, Sexuality
I realized that its been a full year of my twin and I becoming friends. During this time frame we became quite chatting and learned all about each other. We both are in an Open Marriage with husbands that just don’t think like the majority.
Over time it came more apparent that her situation was very different from mine. She has an intimacy deficiency in her relationship while mine does not lack in that department. Her man has lots of issues where my man doesn’t. She realised she is very subservient as a lover and I am more dominating.
In the sexual realm, we both started out with a an entourage of men chasing us. She loves to travel to meet them and I don’t. My sexual exploits were one nightmarish experience after another. Where her’s flourished to the point that she found one man who fulfills her needs and she entered the world of BDSM. My sexual needs seem to have petered off to just wanting to be with my husband.
I used to love playing with my vibrator and that even disinterest me. Orgasm with my husband are like a high. The vibrator brings on more superficial orgasms. It’s so interesting how I came to this point. Energizer and Duracell are pretty pissed at me for their lost in sales. But I can’t help it!
This past weekend there was a poly gathering and I had all intentions of going but the sitter did a no-show. The gathering had the option to bring the kids but I didn’t feel comfy with that and opted to just sending hubby instead. It’s amazing how the group is growing but I didn’t feel like going. I would just love to sit back and watch my husband have his fun.
It’s almost like this ran its course with me. Or these lame ass dating sites have jaded me to the point that I am content with what I have.
Since the last posing, Sheman has finally understood that her psycho behavior with me is unacceptable. She even went as far as to purchase scented candles that smell like me. I kept thinking about the last time we were together and one thing really had me on edge. When she had me in her death grip she had this look in her eyes that really scared me. After talking with hubby and several friends about her. I came to realise she’s one of those people who live life in the fast lane. Loves too quickly and makes crazy decisions. I think her being a friend is all I can handle. She’s killed everything else with me.
I won’t say I am out of the sex lane. Since there are a few fun people I want to play with. I just am not interested in meeting anyone new. The games and bullshit is all old and I need to concentrate on what I want to provide for my family more. I still flirt with my old lover, Big Daddy and chat with some poly folks. So I don’t think I will be lacking in entertainment.
So who knows. I live life a day at a time with this.
Shits and Giggles
23 Aug 2010 Leave a Comment
in Relations Tags: dating, Fuck, Marriage, Online dating service, open relationship, Personals, Relationships
Lord.. I just have to do this so that those people out there can see whats available for women like me looking for a little fun outside the marriage.
I received this email to my profile on a dating site:
hi. i like what u wrote to me and your profile. it would have to be one on one discrete as i am married but not into open relationship as this would ruin my marriage. i do love her and so forth but i would like to get with another for discrete times when possible. i will tell you like my profile says. i am very much into spanking erotic or bit more. specially my cute little ass or yours possibly over the knee. gets things worked up more i think. only twp problems r i cant drive medical wise at this time due to pmh with brain surgery. hard to explain but send me email at bareandover@XXXX.com plus distance might be problem. i am in upper XX. beau
I of course laughed my ass off and sent it several gf’s with a note attached stating, “Is this guy for real!?” So many things wrong with this response. But overall it was DELETE and move on.
Checking out the next response.. He states I sparked his interest. Gives me his email addy and his phone number. (will ignore that part and check out this profile) OMFG! I am so tempted to post the man’s picture here. But I won’t. He has a roaming eye that would drive me nuts. But the worst part is that his Attention line is this “i am looking for that special someone that is out there but will settle for amything else” err, yeah.. DELETE!
Next one looked like he responded from his nursing home. DELETE! And several others that were automatic deletes, either due to their looks, location or lack of picture.
Anyways, this was to lighten up the mood for the week.
